You Can't Spoil Your Child through Love

Though we all worry about spoiling our child, rest assured that you cannot spoil your child with love. Love doesn't spoil children. Love is imperative to a child's healthy development, and it's just not possible to love your child too much. They need caring adults to spend time with them, play with them, teach them, protect them, and enjoy life with them. 

I may sometimes being hard on my eldest, but I believe that it's a parent's job to provide love, safety and encouragement. The process of growing up provides children with lots of challenges. Try to listen openly and understand their situation and communicate honestly with them when they have difficulties and letdowns in their life. 

Set appropriate limits with your child and then adhere to them. Establishing limits with your child gives them a sense of safety and security.  Sometimes parents do not set limits because they don't want to fight with their children. They don't want to cause bad feelings. They may beg a child to comply. Or they may make a rule and fail to enforce it. They may nag without ever enforcing the rules. None of these helps children. When your child fails to adhere or comply with the boundaries you've set for them, be firm yet kind in your response. This lets them know that you're serious about the rule but dedicated to helping and loving them.  Bear in mind though that each child is different and what works for one child may not work for another.  For example, one child may respond well to the direct approach of telling them a specific time to be home, where another child may need a gentle reminder that it's now time to come home.  

Develop a firm but kind manner of making and enforcing your household's rules and expectations. There's no need to fear our children, and there should be no need to instill a sense of fear in our children in order to get them to comply.  

Grill Night

It's been a while since we had grilled fish. So I decided to do some for dinner. :)

We have some fish meat stored at the fridge, but this time around I tried grilling over the oven.

Marinated the fish for 30-60minutes. Marinated in lemon juice, a bit of vinegar, salt and pepper.

6 Tips To Maintaining A Healthy Relationship

Last month was my marriage anniversary and my husband and I were reflecting about the day we got married, and what has kept us together. So, I will like to share with you some of the things that maintain our relationship running, though we're only married for 2 years and been in a relationship for almost 4 years..

If you noticed I wrote “working” on our relationship because our marriage is not perfect. I do not believe there is such a thing. Yes we do get along, share some of the same ambitions and at the moment we do not have any major marital problems. Disagreements we have them all the time but, hey my brother and I were raised in the same household and it is actually weird whenever we agree on something; Let alone someone who grew up in a totally different environment. Here is a list of the little things that keep us together:

•Maintaining good humor! My husband like many hates to get up on the mornings however, he likes it when I also get up with a big smile and just talk to him about general stuff over a cup of coffee while he gets ready. It is surprising but, most of our best conversations arise at this time.

•Patience: Do I need to say more? Honestly some times I get a little cranky, when tired and somehow I convince myself it is all his fault and poor guy having to put up with me. Hey, sometimes I have to be patient too! It is not easy telling a guy to remember to put the toilet seat down all the time.

•Little details: We both love details and please do not start thinking about the most expensive gifts. This can be anything from saving a piece of your pie for him to buying a simple gift or showing appreciation etc, especially when it is not an important date such as a birthday or anniversary.

•Support each other: Yes he is always repairing a computer, stuck on TV or a video game but it surprises me how he comes back to planet Earth whenever I need him.

•No back stabbing: Imagine you found out your partner tells his family every single flaw you posses? Even worse add a couple of extra ones. How would you feel? or how about you call your family and friends every time you have a small problem? Do you thing they will think less of him? Believe that he does not deserve you? If you need help there are always professional counselors.

•Respect for each other: He accepts me the way I am even when not on the same terms and I do the same for him.

Remember I am not a relationship expert! These are just some tips that have worked for us so far but, remember always treat your partner the way you want to be treated.