Last month was my marriage anniversary and my husband and I were reflecting about the day we got married, and what has kept us together. So, I will like to share with you some of the things that maintain our relationship running, though we're only married for 2 years and been in a relationship for almost 4 years..
If you noticed I wrote “working” on our relationship because our marriage is not perfect. I do not believe there is such a thing. Yes we do get along, share some of the same ambitions and at the moment we do not have any major marital problems. Disagreements we have them all the time but, hey my brother and I were raised in the same household and it is actually weird whenever we agree on something; Let alone someone who grew up in a totally different environment. Here is a list of the little things that keep us together:
•Maintaining good humor! My husband like many hates to get up on the mornings however, he likes it when I also get up with a big smile and just talk to him about general stuff over a cup of coffee while he gets ready. It is surprising but, most of our best conversations arise at this time.
•Patience: Do I need to say more? Honestly some times I get a little cranky, when tired and somehow I convince myself it is all his fault and poor guy having to put up with me. Hey, sometimes I have to be patient too! It is not easy telling a guy to remember to put the toilet seat down all the time.
•Little details: We both love details and please do not start thinking about the most expensive gifts. This can be anything from saving a piece of your pie for him to buying a simple gift or showing appreciation etc, especially when it is not an important date such as a birthday or anniversary.
•Support each other: Yes he is always repairing a computer, stuck on TV or a video game but it surprises me how he comes back to planet Earth whenever I need him.
•No back stabbing: Imagine you found out your partner tells his family every single flaw you posses? Even worse add a couple of extra ones. How would you feel? or how about you call your family and friends every time you have a small problem? Do you thing they will think less of him? Believe that he does not deserve you? If you need help there are always professional counselors.
•Respect for each other: He accepts me the way I am even when not on the same terms and I do the same for him.
Remember I am not a relationship expert! These are just some tips that have worked for us so far but, remember always treat your partner the way you want to be treated.